Psychic Readings by Kathleen

I’m often asked by heartbroken clients, “Why can’t I seem to get over this man or woman?” This is an equal opportunity dis-ease by the way.  “Why does this person who has rejected me… or is mean spirited, and/or in love with someone else adhere to my soul like crazy glue? I dream about them, worry about their welfare, think about them every minute of the day, buy them expensive gifts, and just quite simply adore them despite how little regard they obviously have towards me.  What is wrong with me!?”

In a desperate bid to negotiate a rational explanation, some people will decide they must have known this person in another life and divine providence has reunited them for another shot at bliss.  This explanation is especially favoured if their meeting was synchronistic, or their telepathy has gone into overdrive.  Not being a proponent of reincarnation personally, I find this explanation especially irrational… and well yes inflated to be blunt.  Why the divine would consider your need to resolve your supposed past life love issues worthy of such energetic and complex cosmic machinations is a teensy bit ego centric wouldn’t you agree? But then my notions of divine interventions are probably just as odd.  For example my imagination is more inclined to conjure a divinity with a heck of a Teutonic and crazy sense of humour, Who very occasionally glances at us humans with detached and of course, loving curiosity.

The truth as I see it, is that some of us are just more comfortable with deeper levels of intimacy than others.  You are likely quite correct in discerning that the two of you have gone to depths of sharing, mutual joy and animal magnetism that is well beyond the norm in most relationships.  It wasn’t superficially pleasurable or even just fine. It was mind blowing, sacred and so simpatico, you just know  they felt it too. It quite simply doesn’t come along every day and no way could it possibly have been one sided.  But what you may be having trouble accepting is that they actually didn’t like that intimacy.  Maybe it made them extremely uncomfortable.  Too vulnerable, needy, obsessive are the words they might use to describe it.  Like you, when they were on their own without you around, they didn’t feel alive. They felt lonely, weak, exposed and rather desperate.  They could hardly concentrate on anything else including work.  That’s the bit they didn’t like in the least.
In fact it felt so horrid, they just decided it was best to cabosh the whole deal.  The joy of intimacy was just not a good enough reason to feel this chronic yearning, and desperate neediness when apart.  To say nothing of the insecurities, jealousy, possessiveness and terror of abandonment.  Their own I mean. Better to be with someone else.  Someone who is on the same page as them and understands and plays by the game rules of how to avoid those scary deeper levels of intimacy.  Much more preferable than to be with someone who naively gallops at it with unbridled enthusiasm.
This is what makes a relationship stick like crazy glue to your psyche.  There are two emotions that comprise the primary truck of our emotional tree.  Fear and love.  The rest of our emotional repertoire are branches and suckers that grow off this dual, primary truck.  Fear and love are opposite emotions.  We cannot (or perhaps more accurately we should not) feel both at the same time.

When we are having difficulty letting go of that dream of that special love we once shared with someone, we are operating under two illusions.  One is that we can help that person not to feel so afraid and thereby let the love flow back in again. But only they can do that.  We cannot make someone brave, daring, risk taking or honest.  We can show them the path to joy rather like leading a horse to water.  But we cannot make them drink.

The second illusion is that they actually in their heart of hearts prefer to feel love and will embrace it freely once they realize how paltry life is without it.  They aren’t like you that way.  You may be on the same wave length with just about everything else.  But the intimacy part?  You are not on the same page with that and there sadly isn’t anything you can do to change that.  Now there are magicians who will promise to change all that for a modest or horrendous fee but don’t be fooled.  No one has the power to change fear into love in another person’s soul, or water into wine.  Remember that parable?  Only we have that power over ourselves.

Don’t however, feel abnormal or crazy because you love someone so much you just can’t stop thinking and feeling them.  That represents the risk you were willing to embrace.  Be excited about your own bravery and honesty.  That is the gift of love. And know that by keeping up the faith and giving of yourself so generously and lovingly, someday in the not so distant future another will spot your light and rush towards its glow with the same abandonment in which you are prepared to give.
Have a wonderful Mother’s Day!  Celebrate the special women in your life who guided you to trust in love and choose its bounty at any cost.

Blessings Kathleen

Tarot Retreat Weekend at Grail Springs Spa

Exciting news!  I will be facilitating a retreat Tarot weekend this summer from Friday August 24th - Sunday August 26th at Grail Springs luxury spa in Bancroft Ontario.  For more information go to Grail Springs.  The number of spaces is limited so if you know now this is a treat you’re definitely going to buy for yourself this summer or a loved one, I recommend you register very soon.

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“This is the point where love becomes possible. We see the other with the eye of the heart, an eye not clouded by fear manifesting as need, jealousy, possessiveness, or manipulation. With the unclouded eye of the heart, we can see the other as other.  We can rejoice in the other, challenge the other, and embrace the other without losing our own center or taking anything away from the other.  We are always other to each other - soul meeting soul, body awakened with joy. To love unconditionally requires no contracts, bargains, or agreements.  Love exists in the moment-to-moment flux of life.  Here is no lack of commitment to the other but a far deeper commitment to oneself.  Making a commitment to another is really an illusion, a way of holding.  In the end, it is to no avail.  Making a commitment to our deepest Self, however pulls us into life and opens the door to others.  Love carries a great responsibility to go where life leads, to be where life resonates.  If we have no passion for our own life, we will constantly seek it vicariously in others.  Seeking a greater realization of the Self is the only commitment we can really make.”

Dancing in the Flames:  The Dark Goddess in the Transformation of Consciousness by Marion Woodman and Elinor Dickson 1997

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Spring is the season when we feel ourselves awakening to new possibilities.  Like the budding plants and newborn chicks, a part of us that has been dormant like the long dark nights of winter begin nudging for emergence.  This psychic dynamic however, doesn’t go in a straight line from unseen to the seen.  It typically travels by way of an intermediary or a host.  We project our new-found inner gold onto someone, and excitedly we are consumed by every little thing about that person.  The first inkling of this is when the other person appears to be so luminous that they virtually glow in the dark.  That’s a sure sign that something is changing in us and we are projecting our inner gold…we might call them a guru, mentor, teacher, guide or…yikes!…a lover.  (hence we also declare Spring is the time for lovers)

While we are celebrating the magnificent, fantastic, astounding things we attribute to the other person, we are really seeing our own inner, secret depth and meaning.  Our inner gold has become just too weighty for us to fully embrace so we need someone else to carry it for us for a time.  Eventually we’ll gain enough psychic strength to carry the load ourselves and we’ll take it back from them.  You might enjoy reading the book, If You See the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him by Sheldon Kopp, which describes this process very well.

Projecting our inner gold affords us a unique opportunity for an advance in consciousness.  When we see that we have given our spiritual gold to someone to hold for us, there are a myriad of ways in which we might respond.  We follow them with an eagle eye wherever they go.  Their smile can raise us to heavenly heights, and their frown will hurl us to hellish depths.  Every nuance of their actions and expressions are absorbed in minute detail.  A quirk of their eyebrow, a slight smile forming at the corner of their mouths, or their stoney silence can affect how feel that day.  Our very will to live seems to hinge on their approval or sanction.

In our culture, a mutual exchange of inner gold is upheld as the prerequisite for marriage (this happens when the inner gold projecting outwards falls under the heading “Falling in Love”).  People will often say they can hardly stand to live a day without having contact with this person, which of course is why they are marrying.  For the marriage to succeed however, you will have to take your gold back. Unfortunately that’s usually accompanied by disillusionment.  The gold comes clattering home by way of disappointment.  True marriage can only be based on human love, which is different from romantic love, being in love, or loveness.

Our human life, our marriage, is fed by the capacity to love human to human.  When we’re in love, we put our gold - expectations - on the other person, and this process sadly obliterates them from our view.  There is actually no relatedness.  We are not able to truly see the other person as they are unto themselves.  We only see the projection of our own inner gold.  I did a reading for a woman recently who sadly commiserated that she had only fallen in love with bad boys.  Never, ever the decent, commitment oriented sort of fellows.  I asked if she’d ever considered buying herself a Harley motorcycle.

She looked at me astounded and said, “How did you know that?!  I’ve always secretly coveted a Harley!”  I said then you must do it! Because once you have accomplished this goal, you will shrug off this costly habit of projecting your inner bad boy onto a real life jerk.  In a controlled, fun loving way, you can be him!   You’ll actually find yourself attracted to rather ordinary, nice fellows that make great mates and dads.  Like you, they’ll be bikers at night and bankers during the day.  Your true mate will magically appear riding right along next to you on his mechanical steed.  In fact, as soon as you buy that bike, I can see that meeting your true love is just around the corner.

So yes Spring is the time to awaken to the new.  Experience your inner spirit expanding, glowing, and yes getting a little heavy.  Just know that the falling in love part?  It may be as joyfully uplifting as it is fleeting but that doesn’t mean it’s a waste of time.  Falling in love doesn’t have to last forever to be worthwhile.  It may be serving the most important purpose of all which is to awaken you to the spiritual riches lying quietly within, sprouting buds and bursting to be realized.  Whether lover, guide or mentor, your gold carrier maybe just the right combination to nurture and carry the load until you’re ready.  You’ll know when it’s time to schlep your own gold.  Your assigned carrier has strolled off with hardly a backward glance. Your own disappointment mirrored in him/her.

Easter is this weekend and marks a special time of birth and renewal.  Make it time to explore your spiritual emergence and just imagine how much of your own inner gold you are able to embrace.

Blessings Kathleen

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“We know that the creature Wild Man is seeking his own earthly woman.  Afeared or not, it is an act of deepest love to allow oneself to be stirred by the wildish soul of another.  In a world where humans are so afraid of “losing”, there are far too many protective walls against being dissolved in the numinosity of another human soul.  The mate for the wildish woman is the one who has a soulful tenacity and endurance, one who can send his own instinctual nature to peek under the tent of a woman’s soul-life and comprehend what he sees and hears there.  The good match is the man who keeps returning to try to understand, who does not let himself be deterred.  So, the widish task of the man is to find her true names, and not to misuse that knowledge to seize power over her, but rather to apprehend and comprehend the numinous substance from which she is made, to let it wash over him, amaze him, shock him, even spook him. And to stay with it.  And to sing out her names over her.  It will make her eyes shine.  It will make his eyes shine.”

Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D.  1992

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Psychic Readings by Kathleen

As one of my clients, you are likely inclined to believe that the people who come to me for readings are 99% women.  In 1985, it was all women but I’m happy to report that as the decades passed, this has adjusted a little bit more every year.  Now my practice is comprised of almost 30% - 40% men!  I bet that surprises many of you including the male clients reading this newsletter.  One day last week I booked appointments all day with only men.  By the end of the day even I was astonished.  This would be a surprising statistic to most people if I were an ordinary garden variety psychic but the fact that I am a rather unabashed, emboldened feminist psychic, means this is no less than a paradigm shift. I remember a day when men afforded me a wide berth upon hearing I was a feminist OR psychic but both together in the same sentence?  Feminist psychic would have triggered a stampede of little man feet in all directions.

Sometimes, not always I admit, I’m tempted to ask the men who call for an appointment, “Why me?  Aren’t you even the least bit concerned that I’m well…anti men?”  If you know me well, you already know I’m ummm…how shall I say?  Skeptical of the male species? To be fair and accurate however, I would say I’m more harshly critical of their social conditioning.  There is nothing inherently wrong with the male species, in truth they aren’t hugely different from women except in delightfully obvious physical ways, but their conditioning is generally a disgrace and aberration.  It’s not the “don’t cry” messages that are the worst, it’s the, “you aren’t responsible for your emotional health messages” that deeply inhibits their ability to be truly present and intimate.

It’s the Knight in Tarnished Armour who bravely, stoically owns that he’s been weak, dismissive, cowardly and pathetic and to your face apologizes for it, who is the true Sir Lancelot that Queen Gwenevere lusted after.  When women ask me, “How will I know he’s the one?!”

I tell them he will say something along the lines of, “I have a fantastic sense of humour mostly at other people’s expense, and I’m moody as hell but I never lie.  I think you are beautiful but your laugh is forced and phony.”  And you know he’s being truthful because you have been politely faking laughter at his rather unkind, sarcastic jokes.  He’s a keeper.  You might not be impressed with his lack of polish or diplomacy but you’ll always know this fella is going to tell you what is in his heart and mind.  This is the man you can be truly intimate with and you’re not going to have many unpleasant surprises down the road.  He’ll even tell you when he’s going to cheat because he’s just that kind of guy.  In his world lying is humiliating evidence of his cowardice.  Besides he has a low threshold for secrecy, complexity and guilt.

But let me say that the men who come to see me are in a special category of their own.  Actually asking a man, “Would you ever consult a feminist psychic?”,  could be a very handy measurement and criteria tool for you.  The ultimate litmus test.  The men I meet are more than willing than most to admit they have faults, that their relationships are confusing and they’re lost.  The kind of rare man willing to ask for directions even from a feminist psychic.  And in case you’re curious, these men are not sad, pathetic losers (because women often themselves judge men harshly who have to ask for directions). They are successful, well-educated, confident cool dudes.  Lawyers, doctors, engineers, writers, geologists, entrepreneurs and yes politicians.  Nice politicians.

So yes there are heroes are out there in the singles world.  Somewhat battle worn and confused, you might find yourself staring at them with your mouth open in offended shock.  He tells you like it is and can take it bravely on the chin himself.  After all a man who can dish out blunt honesty should be able to take it in the same spirit it was given.  If not, he’s just another sexist jerk and it’s time to move onto the next candidate.

Happy International Women’s Day on Thursday!

Blessings Kathleen

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“Now, please do not think that I am saying that every private person is a sociopath.  Many people are guarded for a variety of reasons, both good and bad.  Most of us prefer to keep our “constructed” personality intact as a shield to protect the vulnerable, painful part of our unprotected egos within.  If you’re a good tarot reader, you can work well with very private people, assuming that they come to trust you over time and you show them a sensitivity that acknowledges how difficult they find it to open up.  But you cannot read cards for facades of human beings who have nothing below the surface but thin air.  I still can’t say that I understand what did or did not go on in this client’s head, but I do know that she never paid me for the card readings, and that she stole a pair of earrings from a side table when I went into the kitchen to get her a glass of water.  Years later I feel very sorry for her (although I wish I had my earrings back).  Imagine being a person is only a surface?”

Confessions of a Tarot Reader by Jane Stern 2011

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The day for romance is upon us!  How exhilarating romance is when it’s going swimmingly and how tortuous it is when it is in decline.  The best and worst aspect of the whole journey is that it all can be so unexpected. You would seem to be thinking and feeling just alike on all matters that are important, your sex life is so good it makes you sing your heart out in the shower every morning, you are chatting all day, and you’re growing more confident that commitment is on both your minds.

And one nothing-out-of-the-ordinary day you send them a text as usual to make plans… and they don’t respond.  Their cell must be having technical problems (and heaven knows that happens often enough!) so you wait and still no response.  Actually you don’t hear from them all day so you contact them again a few hours later and still no response.  When you finally do hear back from them they are acting like nothing out of the ordinary has happened.  No cell phone problems, yes they did receive your message, what’s up? You feel hurt, confused, and scared.  Your relationship has gone wonky on you and you have no clue how it happened. Conversely, it can happen the other way around.  You’re out with your lover one evening and inexplicably you look across the divide between you and it seems to have oddly shifted out of focus.  The thrill has simply vanished along with your patience, desire, curiosity, and good humour.  You chock it up to moodiness over work or extended family.  It couldn’t possibly be about this sexy, exciting, thrilling person you’ve been obsessing about for the past several months or years?!

But sadly even the thought of kissing and throwing your arms around them is rather uninteresting, maybe even repellent.  You start praying fervently this is a temporary illness.  But that magic doesn’t return and you realize you are in a pot of hot water. All your loved ones are celebrating this amazing new someone in your life which may even set off those wedding bells in the near future.  They even adore your lover! How to tell them this new hire at work is now making your heart sing?  How could you be so fickle and ditzy?  How do you slip away surreptitiously from this ho hum, mildly irritating dud who is so sappy about you?  Good luck with that.

The next time you do see each other, you want to ask them what the heck has happened.  But you are afraid.  You’re afraid you’re going to hear something you aren’t going to like or have to say something you really don’t want to say (with good reason) so you let it pass.  But you know in your heart things just aren’t the same.  They don’t look at you with that same burning desire, they don’t seek every opportunity to touch you, in fact they seem to find anything or anyone else in the room more intriguing.  The connection has inexplicably dissolved. This can happen after seeing someone for a month or with someone you’ve been married to for years.  One of the partners has simply yet absolutely lost interest in the other.   The self questioning keeps you up half the night.  Did you imagine all this mutual passion and appreciation? Was it only one sided all along?  Was something said or done that has turned it off?  Can it be turned back on again?

The wonder of love is that it can happen the opposite way too.  You like someone, and they like you too.  One day you are out together on a casual date and they crack a joke that makes you laugh so hard you can’t catch your breath.  And with mind-blowing clarity you really see this wonder of a human being.  Your heart is thumping like a freight train and like magic you realize you adore this person and they have been ever so patiently waiting for you to notice that you are just perfect for each other.  In amazement you are lifted to a peak of ecstasy that makes you want to fly around the stratosphere shouting and somersaulting.

Most clients who come to me with lover queries are abashed.  They say with embarrassed smiles, “You probably hear this question all the time…but what is going on with my love life?!”  Don’t be surprised or ashamed to be stressed out about your love life!  It’s normal.  When our love life is going well, there is nothing in the world that can dash our joy, but when it isn’t, every little tiny irritant turns us into raving savages. When a friend or family member is broken hearted over love, be charitable and be prepared to be very patient! Too many of my clients come to me emotionally shattered with no one they can talk to about their hopelessness and despair.  They’ve been granted one or two discussions by their family and friends over love’s fickle ways and that’s it.  The problem is that that is not it.  The damage to our self esteem and faith in ourselves has been wounded.  The longing to be with that person is overwhelming their ability to do what they know needs to be done.  Let go and move on. Too often we tell our friends and family, “Just get over him/her and move on with your life! Forget about them!  They are jerks to treat you like that!” They already know all of that but that crazy, no-good heart of theirs just keeps on pining. And in weak moments it wins the day and before we know it our little fingers are busy at that keyboard…

If our hearts would only listen to our logical mind we’d be so much more content.  But the heart rules and when our heart sings with expansiveness and poetry, the world glows with beneficence and beauty.  No amount of logic in the world is going to offer you that feeling which is the reason why we continue to fall into the quagmire time and time again despite all our exhortations to the contrary!  Now about that new hire at work…

I wish all of you a magical and joyous Valentine’s Day.

Blessings Kathleen

 Tarot Reading DVD’s Introductory and Intermediate

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“The Lovers card isn’t only about the highest spiritual kind of love.  It is a down-and-dirty card about passionate sex. There are times (after a long day of sitting across the table from people) when I truly believe that absolutely no one in the world has sex anymore.  Let me amend this:  Lots of people are having sex or wanting to have sex, just not with their spouse.  However, since only I have this devastating overview, I can’t just plunk it on the table and expect my client to believe it.  We have to get into it sideways, with the client foofing and fussing about what a wonderful provider and best friend her husband is, then in sotto voice sharing, “We never have sex anymore.”  At this point I am supposed to show great shock, but as I already know what is coming I am mentally filing my nails.”

Confessions of a Tarot Reader by Jane Stern 2011

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 Psychic Readings by Kathleen

Many of you who read my ezine ask that I tell more stories about the questions people ask and the accompanying readings that reveal futures unfolding as predicted.  It’s a complicated task due to my rather anal adherence to confidentiality.  Even not identifying the who and only the narrative itself makes me squeamish.

What I can confidently say is that the most common conundrum facing both men and women who come to me for readings is in the realm of love and at the top of the love list, not surprisingly is lover.  Other love questions such as those involving children, parents, siblings and friends are also queried but hands down, it’s the anguish of lovers that tops the list.  Taking into account my particularly skewed perspective, in part due to the type of work I do, I would have to say monogamy has gone the way of the dinosaurs.  I’m always confounded by how many people are unfamiliar with the word’s meaning.  It means having sex with only one person just in case you are one.  Curiously it still has value in most people’s heart.  Tremendous value actually.  Yet so few address it openly.  Asking a perspective partner if they are having sex with only you would seem to be too embarrassing a subject to raise.  Having been sexually active and single throughout most of the VD, herpes and AIDS era, I was indoctrinated to ask that vital question to all my partners.  As a matter of fact I asked to see his VD and AIDS test results and I’ll be happy to show him mine. if a man said he had never been tested and he wasn’t a virgin either, he was immediately relegated to the “pal” division.  In my mind he was one crazy dude and definitely not one to share more than a howdy with.  My husband plopped his medical report on the table at our second date without even having to be asked.  I was instantly star struck over his honesty and lack of denial. My heart thumped with greater certainty that this was the man of my dreams.

If you’re worried that the question of monogamy will be taken as a wheedling for commitment, you are certainly at liberty to include a caveat that you are not asking for his hand in marriage but rather for his state of health. I never met a man in my life who was so desirable he was worth dying of AIDS or VD for.  Not one.  And if you believe that simply because you are having an affair with a married man, he’s only sleeping with you and his wife, or even worse not with his wife either, please return to entry and check your ego at the door.  That notion definitely falls under the heading, Denial.  Sadly I’ve never met a man who asked me how many sex partners I’ve had.  No man wants to brave that door.  That means no man I’ve slept with has a clue how many men I’ve slept with.  That’s enough to give the bravest of us pause.

Other more complex issues arise as the relationship progresses from dates to relationship.  Loving someone fiercely who doesn’t return our affections and adjusting/adapting/accepting is one I hear most often at this stage of development.  It’s so annoying that we cannot, no matter what we do make another love or desire us.  Although when you consider the horror of someone else possessing the ability to make you love or desire them, you feel almost grateful at this state of affairs even in the throes of the worst frustration imaginable.

Finding the one is especially complicated for us humans. We all possess a heck of lot more criteria than we realize at first blush.  I often hear people extolling (men and women) the virtues of gentleness, consideration, respect and reasonable attractiveness.  So financial stability is irrelevant I ask rather tongue in cheek?  Oh absolutely they gush.  So an unemployed, homeless person who is beautiful and considerate is fine? Hell no.  I just want an ordinary human, gainfully employed, right age (no more variance than 5 years), shared cultural/religious/nationality affiliations and wants to get married.  And is my soul mate of course.  Really?  Why would you imagine your true spiritual soul mate would embody any of those qualities?  In fact since spirit’s job is to teach us something, wouldn’t it be far more likely that our soul mate would be absolutely and completely different from ourselves? No doubt why few of us actually do marry our soul mates.

I also point out to most of my clients that finding the perfect mate is a very serious undertaking.  You wouldn’t invest in a home you’ve just clapped eyes on.  A mate!  That is a far more serious investment.  You are going to share everything in your life with this person.  Your family, your body, your money, your friends, your dreams and in fact your whole future.  Perhaps even children!  Do you know how hard it is for a male alligator (or any males in the animal kingdom for that matter) to convince a female to mate with him?  For some it involves some rather terrifying and death defying stunts to prove himself worthy of joining the gene pool.  And it’s incumbent upon the females of the species to make sure the test really is tough.  That’s a lot of responsibility.  The survival of the species depends upon that discriminatory dance.  And if you think you’re going to get hot in time with someone who just fits in every other way, get out of your imagination and into reality.  Our sexual attraction is there or not.  We are turned on or NOT.  Our ideal mate is not a matter of all heart, or all head, or all body. He’s going to be the whole package.  And yes you are going to feel terrified, vulnerable, needy, sick - probably suicidal half the time but you are going to feel ALIVE.  You’ll know you are with the right one.  Because every part of you that makes you human knows this is the right one for you.  Now he has to feel exactly the same way.  That’s the complicated part.

Fortunately we don’t all have the same focus for our affections.  One woman’s ambrosia is another woman’s poison.  The most important thing is to know what you want.  What are your non-negotiables?  What darkness in him are you prepared to embrace?  Because trust me that will be the greatest challenge of your life.  His good points are a breeze but know that everyone of us is 50/50.  You know that generosity you love so much?  Well that can manifest in really annoying behaviours like buying his friends - friends you can’t stand for example.  You know how he always looks gorgeous when you go out together and every woman in the room drools with envy?  Well that can turn into the most severe critic when you’re having a bad hair day.  Know your non-negotiables and be prepared to love him even when you hate him.

If you’re an online shopper for a soulmate, be ready to kiss many, many, many frogs before you meet your prince and have skin like kevlar.  It’s a great exercise however, in sampling what your mate priorities truly are and are not.

I believe there is nothing in our lives more important than finding our special mate.  Sharing your lives with another person who is your most favourite person in the world is a wonder, joy and pleasure like no other.  But don’t for a second imagine that this is going to be easy, pleasant, or even fun most the time.  Anything worth having is going to be a lot of hard work, tears, self discipline, and gritty determination.  You will have to stare down your inner monsters (insecurity, fears of abandonment and rejection), resist urges to grab at an imaginary control you don’t have, and be yourself no matter what temptation grips you in the face of a high, potential loss.

I wish all of you a love filled 2012.  May this be the year you brave the challenge of finding that special someone to love with your whole heart and who sings your soul’s song at full throttle.

Blessings Kathleen

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“People who come to me to read their cards often mistake me for a magician.  They think or hope that I can cast a spell and make recalcitrant men fall madly in love with them, make ex-wives vanish into ether, and produce engagement rings from thin air.  I can’t do this.  What I can do is hold up a mirror and show them how they look to the outside world, that they are worthy of love but also in denial.  I call a spade a spade. If they are deluding themselves, I gently tell them so.  Do my clients hear me?  Yes, but it takes time to sink in.  Often they walk away annoyed or tell me I do not understand the situation. Then six months or a year down the road comes the contrite phone call confirming what I said as true.”

Confessions of a Tarot Reader by Jane Stern 2011

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Tarot Reading Gift Certificates for the Holidays!

 A brief reminder that I do offer reading Gift Certificates.  Both for readings in person and phone or skype.  Every year I receive several queries about this possibility and often forget to remind my clients that it does make a really appreciated and unique gift especially for the start of the New Year.

If you would like to arrange this for a loved one contact me directly by email or give me a call at 519-513-9457. I print the Certificate on parchment and send it by mail or email depending on your location, needs and timing.

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I love this liminal time, when the tide of All Hallows gives way to the Yuletide.  Now that we’ve harvested and eaten our pumpkins we’re bringing out the holly, the ivy, and the candles to welcome the return of the Sun from the South pole to the the North.  The Old Ones still hold sway for a few weeks yet–this darkest time of the year remains their season.  No wonder there are so many folktales about the dead visiting the living on Christmas Eve!

As we respond this month to our cultural imperative to shop, socialize, prepare for Yuletide celebrations both at work and home, remember to take advantage of this yearly gateway opening to the Spirit World.  This year especially as we stand at the precipice of 2012.  According to the esoteric writings of East and West, each of us earthbound travelers is guided by one or more advanced spirits whose purpose it is to love and protect us unconditionally.  Plato’s teacher Socrates, declared by the Oracle of Delphi to be the wisest living person, had a disconcerting habit of wandering through the streets of Athens in apparent conversation with himself.  By his own account, he was engaged with his daemon– an entity that, since his early childhood, had served as his moral guide.  As he explained, “In the past the prophetic voice to which I have become accustomed has always been my constant companion, opposing me even in quite trivial things if I was going to take the wrong course.” As to its origin, he explains, “When a good man dies he has honour and a mighty portion among the dead, and becomes a daemon, which is a name given to him signifying wisdom.”
Within the iconography of organized religions, visitations from the spirit world took the form of Angels.  It was while Prophet Mohammed was meditating in a grotto near Mecca that the archangel Gabriel revealed to him that he had been chosen by Allah.  Through the Old and New Testaments, God’s senior angels ran a direct courier service to Moses, Jacob and St. Paul.  A line of early martyrs claimed visitations by the risen Christ or Madonna, then reportedly became visiting saints after their own deaths. In the first century, Augustine was turned from his debauched ways by an angel. In the fifteen century, Joan of Arc believed herself summoned to her heroic mission by the archangel Michael, who appeared to her in a form as solid as her eventual accusers.

Napoleon Bonaparte also thought himself a host to guiding spirits — a shining sphere that encouraged and a red dwarf who warned.(while his spouse Josephine studied and read the Tarot!)

In the 20th century, Dr. Carl Jung (influential psychiatrist) relied on the wisdom of a spirit guide named, Philemon.  When Philemon first appeared to Jung as an old man with horns and wings, Jung described him as a wise fragment of himself (psychological interpretation).  However, as Philemon developed in physical and psychological reality, Jung identified him as an outside independent entity.  At times, Philemon was so manifest that Jung could often be found chatting with him in the garden explaining that this engagement was no different from consulting a living guru.

Edgar Cayce, a famous spiritual healer in the 20th century, claimed to have been visited several times by a dark complected and turbaned figure who warned him when others were trying to exploit him.

Transpersonal therapy, the brainchild of two psychiatrists, Grof and Maslow, is aimed at direct experience of the sacred without the crutch of drugs:  Like Spiritualism in the Victorian Age, this movement answered a secular call for something that aims to marry science and religion. As Grof witnessed his wife’s descent into alcoholism after suffering childbirth trauma, he had a powerful insight about addictions which would significantly contribute to the evolution of attitudes and treatment of the addiction disease process.  He understood that to hit bottom with alcohol and drugs was like a perverse re-enactment of the shamanic journey.  Like Shamans, addicts descended into the underworld, where they were tortured by supernatural spirits before ascending into the light to be reborn.  This connection between addiction and spiritual aspiration had already been intuited by William James a century earlier, “The sway of alcohol over humankind is unquestionably due to its power to stimulate the mystical faculties of human nature, usually crushed to earth by the cold facts and dry criticisms of sober hour.”

Jung also noted the connection between alcoholic spirits and the sacred kind in a 1961 letter to Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA.  Comparing the craving for alcohol to a low-level thirst for union with God, Jung declared the antidote to be spiritus contra spiritum—Spirits against spirits. In other words the cure for addiction lies down the spiritual path to light and right purpose.

All of this spiritual her/historical preamble is to suggest that it’s also not such a random coincidence that the Yuletide season festivities constellate the consumption of “spirits”!  However you celebrate this magical and liminous season, I hope it is one resplendent with love and an excited anticipation of that so soon to be 2012.

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“What began as a strength of the Society for Psychical Research became its folly:  defining itself in the terms of its materialistic critics.  Eventually, its well-meaning search for irrefutable physical evidence encouraged mediums - some of whom possessed genuine gifts- to manipulate their audiences with ever-grosser tricks, so that investigation of death, soul and God came to turn upon the concealed contents of a subject’s bloomers.  Yet, according to history’s greatest seers, psychic phenomena are of little consequence unless related to spiritual development.  The medium is not the message.  Inner meaning is.  Why, not how.”

The Quest for the Fourth Monkey by Sylvia Fraser 1992.

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Lately many new clients have been asking me what it is exactly that I do.  What are tarot cards? Is that all you do is tarot reading? How do you know the things you do?

The closest definition I have found to date for what I do is a process called “scrying”.  Scrying has been the centre of tribal life for millennium by Cybelles, Druids, Priestesses, Shamans and Seers.  These roles were assumed by those who expressed the gift at an early age and were apprenticed to a more experienced practitioner for education and spiritual guidance.

There are as many different scrying methods as there are cultures.  From water or crystal ball gazing, to throwing bones, stones, coins and melted wax, individual scryers will modify aspects of the method they use to suit their own needs, or will invent entirely new techniques.  No matter how they may differ however, scryers rely on the same basic psychological mechanism.

The scryer concentrates awareness upon some physical object, or uses a preset series of mental or physical actions, in order to bring about a receptive mental state capable of receiving information gathered by the deep mind.  Ordinary consciousness blocks the reception of this scried information.  That is why it is so rare to get an extrasensory perception when we are engaged in our ordinary day-to-day activities. When we scry (no matter which method we use) we induce a receptive state of consciousness.  We also instruct the deep mind that we are open and prepared to trust information that has not been obtained through our five senses.

If we do not specify a particular type of information, we may receive anything and will probably have a difficult time determining what it means.  If we fix our conscious awareness to the specific area of information we wish to extract before we begin scrying, this instructs the deep mind to send us data in a very narrow range.   This is why I always guide a client to ask questions or at least give me some idea of the theme they would like me to focus upon.  A narrowly defined topic can yield more useful data saving the client the labourious problem of listening to a diatribe on things they have not the slightest interest in hearing!

Scrying does not depend on objects such as crystal balls or tarot cards or a black mirror.  These are aids to scrying, nothing more.  In themselves they have no power whatsoever.  A skilled scryer can scry with nothing but her own mind.  The tools do not enable scrying in themselves, but they help create a favourable mental condition that encourages the formation of the necessary receptive state of consciousness.

Over time, with years of practice, a particular object like tarot cards, can act as the perfect trigger or key that induces in a few moments the desired mindstate for scrying.  The tools belonging to a scryer acquire power for that scryer through repeated use.  Unfortunately those same tools will not have power for another scryer, since that person has not formed the conditioned reflex patterns that allow those tools to act as triggers to induce receptive awareness.

In this coming month pay special attention to 11:11:11. This will mark what spiritual watchers call “the opening of the Star Gate”.  We have just completed the Mayan cycle (the 26,000 year cycle) exactly on the day the world reportedly tipped the 7 billion population.  Study your dreams mindfully on November 11th! Many of us will have dreams, not just pertaining to our own personal lives but to the bigger picture of life on earth for everyone.  And this will be the perfect day to practice scrying!

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“Miss X (Miss Goodrich Freer), author of Essays in Psychical Research, herself an experienced crystal gazer, says that the best way to begin scrying is to look about the room and observe some brightly coloured object, close the eye and try to transfer the picture to the ball.  If this is successful, the next stage should be an attempt to recall a vivid memory picture and to transfer it into the ball in the same way.  After this it is very likely that spontaneous images will also appear.”

Nandor Fodor Encyclopaedia of Psychic Science 1966

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October 4, 2011

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It is commonly acknowledged today among spiritual seekers that there is a body-psyche connection.   Unfortunately however, it is also assumed that if the psyche can be strengthened, it will simply carry the body along with it.  In other words, it is thought that the psychic energy will penetrate the cells of the body, allowing transformation to take place in both realms at the same time.  This implies, of course, that the body is secondary in importance to the psyche, as it would then just be “following along” so to speak.  I consider this assumption to be false, as over and over again we can see that the body does not simply follow the progress of the psyche.  It often has a “mind” of it’s own and needs to be treated accordingly.  In my experience, the simultaneous transformation of the body and psyche is only possible if both sides are worked on at the same time.

In the East, mind and body were never regarded or treated as separate entities.  If one accepts the theory of opposites as a cosmic reality, then it would not be possible to consider only one side to the exclusion of the other.  It would be ludicrous to assume that the opposite would simply follow along in the agreement.  Both must therefore have an equal place in the process of transformation, growth and enlightenment.

As with any pairs of opposites, one can become possessed if too much energy is manifesting at one pole.  For example, a person consumed by instinct might be controlled by obsessive sexuality or by food cravings, whereas to be possessed by spirit would mean being driven by ideology.  In ether case, there is no freedom whatsoever.

Carl Jung speaks of a place where the opposite poles of spirit and matter both meet and don’t meet.  This is the place that we would term today the “subtle” body.  That intermediate place between spirit and body, between the spirit and earthly realms.  It is said in ancient yogic teachings  that this invisible subtle body is connected to our physical body by a slender silken cord suggesting perhaps that the place of connection between the physical body and the subtle body is the soul.

This is why when we are experiencing insufferable pain and stress we must focus our attentions and intentions on both sides of these opposites in ourselves.  Working with the subtle body means maintaining a delicate, complex balance between our physical and spiritual needs.  To neglect the body is to neglect half of our world.  It is to neglect from whence we come, the prima materia, the Mother.  It disregards our connection to earth, to matter, to the world of nature and to the feminine.  To overlook the spiritual world  is to dismiss the possibility of healing.  Both aspects are needed for transformation.  The psyche must include the entire spectrum, from instinct to spirit.

The end of October, what we think of as “Halloween” and “Devil’s Night” is a pointer to this tension between the two worlds.  It’s harvest!  A time to fill up and a time to share.  A time to share and honour our connection to each other (Thanksgiving) and a time to fill our bodies with the nutrients it will need to sustain through the long, cold winter.  I wish all of you a rich and enlightening October!

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“Anne Maguire, analyst and physician, tells us that the archetype of fire as it appears in both ancient pictures and instinctive reactions comes to us in order to promote the healing of the skin of the afflicted.  The archetype of fire manifests in the skin disease, bringing heat and pain in order to lead the afflicted person to a level of consciousness where the psychic difficulties that lie behind the disease can be recognized.  As the skin is the mirror of the soul, so fire and emotion enter one’s life.  Without emotional fire, there is neither light nor life.  Only through conflict can we begin to see the meaning of skin affliction.  Emotion becomes our carrier of consciousness.”

Jung and Yoga by Judith Harris 2001

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Research on ways of knowing which are beyond the intellect gained a marked impetus in 1983 when psychologist Howard Gardner, a professor of cognition and education at Harvard, wrote a book, Frames of Mind on his theory of multiple intelligences.  Gardner challenged the dominance of IQ as a measurement of intelligence saying that there were other crucial forms of intelligence that had no correlation with IQ.  He identified seven (there is that magical number 7!) and much to his surprise his theory resonated to a degree he never would have expected.  His book became an overnight bestseller. His greatest contribution was to get us thinking in terms of multiple intelligence.  Many of you have probably heard of Daniel Goleman’s work Emotional Intelligence.  Goleman argued that qualities such as empathy, self-awareness, and persistence were likewise crucial components of this intelligence, and that they could be taught.  Goleman also pointed to the limits of IQ as a measure of intelligence and made a compelling argument that emotional intelligence, of which gut feelings are a component, enable a different kind of knowing.  Like Gardner, Goleman hit a collective nerve.  His book also become an overnight publication success.

My experience in life and in my work especially leads me to believe there is yet another kind of intelligence so far missed in the grand schema of psychology, which I would describe as intuitive intelligence.  What if every peculiar knowing was about activating an intelligence that facilitated a capacity to see things as they are, even if we’re unable to define it?  My clients often ask me, “Kathleen, how can you know what you do?! We’ve never even met.  I don’t get it!!”

And to be honest I cannot describe it very well either.  I try but it ends up sounding rather silly and inane.  I keep hoping an intelligent explanation or at least description will cross my path or reveal itself out of the well of my own psyche.

I can read another person accurately because I become them.  I know them from the inside because I’ve stopped being separate.  I go where they are (which is why geographical proximity is not as relevant as the connection I feel with the person).  I draw upon how connected we all are so I really am seeing with their eyes when I read them.  All I have to do is get myself out of the way which involves being mindful about who and what I take in psychically and physically.  If I am overstressed or tired (and no I don’t drink because any form of substance that artificially alters my consciousness is definitely going to interfere with connection!) or emotionally charged, my performance starts slipping like an injured athlete’s body.  I will suggest to clients they wait until the next day for their reading if I’m not feeling in top form.  So I do know for sure there is a brain activity involved.  I think when readers’ lives or psyches are in disarray they really can’t tune into another person’s reality.  When you are seeing an intuitive either for a reading or healing, I recommend you always ask how they are. If they are not in good shape you can be sure it’s going to be almost impossible for them to get themselves out of the way to read or heal you. This is why I’ve stopped doing parties, events or shows.  I found by the last client I was really too tired to do as good a job as I had with the first person I’d worked with which really wasn’t fair.

When I have to rebook a client I hope they understand it’s for their benefit more than mine.  I think most of you do understand that the work looks much less demanding that it actually is.  Drawing upon intuitive intelligence is as demanding a task as drawing upon any of the other forms of intelligence.  If you ever taken an IQ test, you’ll remember how exhausted you felt by the end of it.  Getting ourselves out of the way involves putting all our psychic muscle to work to shoulder our own egos off to the side and our egos tend to be weighty.  I recommend it though.  There is no better exercise for the mind and spirit.

Blessings Kathleen

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In the Native American tradition, as well as in Hinduism and Buddhism, that psychic plane, that inner “invisible” world from which, in darkness, imagery comes forth, is the “other world,” or the real world, what we all see “normally” is the world of maya, the false world, the world that is not but appears to be.”

Wheels of Light by Rosalyn L. Bruyere

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